The Healing Power of Shared Memories

The Healing Power of Shared Memories

Spirit has a remarkable way of bringing up the smallest, most ordinary moments — the ones that slip through the cracks of our memory but still hold immense meaning. It might be a burned dinner, a favorite song on a car ride, or the sound of laughter echoing through a kitchen long ago. These aren’t random details; they’re proof that love lingers in the quiet places.

During a recent session with a woman named Marylou her husband shared a memory of them taking an Alaskan cruise and the whales that showed up.  She was stunned and then elaborated on how they'd taken an excursion from the ship out on a small boat out. The captain exclaimed that he'd never seen so many whales breach the water at one time. It was an exhilarating experience for Marylou and her husband.

That one memory, resurrected decades later, opened a doorway of connection wider than any grand statement could. The message wasn’t about the whales—it was about love in action, love expressed through care, through the desire to give. Spirit knows that when they bring up those specific memories, they’re not just proving survival—they’re reigniting the feeling of being seen, cherished, and remembered.

I’ve found that the most healing readings often come through the simplest details. A father reminding his daughter about the time they danced in the kitchen to old country music. A grandmother recalling the scent of gardenias in her hair. A friend mentioning the inside joke that only the two of you ever understood.

Spirit knows we find comfort in the ordinary. They show us that what we considered “everyday life” was actually sacred all along. Those memories remind us that connection didn’t end—it simply changed form.

If you’ve been longing to feel your loved one near, to relive the warmth of those small but powerful moments, I’d be honored to help you reconnect. Schedule a session through aperfectsoul.com.

Why Some Spirits Come Through First

Why Some Spirits Come Through First

When a loved one passes, we naturally want them to be the one who shows up in a reading. But sometimes, someone else steps forward first—a relative we weren’t expecting, or even someone we barely knew. It’s not random. Spirit has a divine order in their timing.

In one session, a woman named Lila came hoping to hear from her husband. Instead, her late father-in-law appeared. She looked surprised but listened. He said, “Tell her I was there when he crossed.” A few minutes later, her husband’s energy emerged—strong, peaceful, radiant. The father-in-law had simply opened the door, preparing her heart for what came next.

Sometimes the spirit that comes through is the one who has the exact right message in the moment for you.

Spirit communication often follows energetic logic, not emotional expectation. Those who arrive first are usually the ones best able to bridge energy or ease tension. It’s never a sign your loved one can’t come through—only that love has layers.

If you’ve ever had a reading where someone unexpected appeared, consider that Spirit always works with intention. I’d love to help you discover why certain souls step forward first. You can book a session at aperfectsoul.com.

When Children in Spirit Reach Out

When Children in Spirit Reach Out

Few losses cut deeper than the passing of a child. The pain defies logic, the questions have no easy answers. Yet, I’ve witnessed again and again that children’s souls are radiant in Spirit—joyful, playful, and eager to comfort their families.

One mother, Emily, came to me after losing her 7-year-old son to illness. During her reading, he showed me a picture he’d drawn—a rainbow over their house. She gasped, “That was the last picture he ever made.” He then said, “Mom, I run faster now.”

That one line shattered her grief wide open into light. She said afterward, “For the first time since he passed, I felt peace.”

Children in Spirit often bring laughter, colors, and playful energy. They remind us that their essence remains childlike—free and loving. Their visits are never to remind you of pain, but to remind you that the connection continues in joy.

Note-You will never stop missing your child nor will you ever forget them. They do want you to move on with your life just as they are moving forward with theirs.

I know that every time my son speaks to me through another medium it feels wonderful to hear from him in that way. I do speak with him as well. It just feels different when it's coming from another medium. It's been 10 years since his passing.

If you’ve lost a child and long to feel that connection again, know that their light has never dimmed. I would be honored to help you reconnect at aperfectsoul.com.

When Guilt Lingers After Loss

When Guilt Lingers After Loss

Grief is heavy enough—but when guilt joins it, it becomes almost unbearable. “I should have done more.” “I wish I’d said something.” These are the quiet tortures that keep so many people from healing. But Spirit consistently shows us that love, not regret, is what they carry with them.

During a session with a woman named Janine, her brother came through after a sudden accident. She wept, “I should have called him that day.” His energy wrapped around her like a soft blanket as he said, “You couldn’t have known. I did feel your love—it never stopped.”
What Janine needed wasn’t forgiveness from him—it was permission to forgive herself.

Forgiving yourself is critical in being able to move forward with your life. When my son passed away I had tremendous guilt over things I wished I had said or done differently. What I reminded myself of is that in every given moment I was doing the best I could and so was he. I let myself off the hook for things I couldn't change and chose to move forward instead. 

Spirit often reminds us that from their perspective, the “what-ifs” don’t matter. The only thing that endures is the bond of love, and that’s never severed by human mistakes or timing.

If guilt has been a silent companion in your grief, know that your loved one wants you to lay it down. Their peace is already complete—they’re waiting for yours to join them. To receive that reassurance for yourself, you can schedule a reading through aperfectsoul.com.

The Subtle Ways Spirit Says Hello

The Subtle Ways Spirit Says Hello

Most people imagine Spirit communication as something dramatic—flashing lights, moving objects, or disembodied voices. The truth is that Spirit often whispers. They come gently, through everyday moments you might miss if you’re not paying attention.

It might be a song that plays the exact moment you think of them, or the sudden scent of their favorite perfume when no one is around. It’s the cardinal that lands on your porch just when you’ve been missing your father, or a familiar phrase that someone unexpectedly says that was uniquely “theirs.”

A man named Henry once shared that every time he felt lost, a single white feather would appear on his path. He didn’t know why until a reading revealed his mother had used feathers as bookmarks in her Bible! “That’s my sign,” she said through me. “When he finds one, I’m reminding him he’s guided.” His eyes filled with tears as years of “coincidences” suddenly made sense.

Spirit doesn’t need to be loud—they just need your awareness. The more you acknowledge these small winks from heaven, the more they’ll appear. That’s how love works—it expands when recognized.

If you’ve been sensing little “hellos” from beyond and want to understand their meaning, I’d love to help you explore them in a session. Visit aperfectsoul.com to connect.