When Guilt Lingers After Loss

When Guilt Lingers After Loss

Grief is heavy enough—but when guilt joins it, it becomes almost unbearable. “I should have done more.” “I wish I’d said something.” These are the quiet tortures that keep so many people from healing. But Spirit consistently shows us that love, not regret, is what they carry with them.

During a session with a woman named Janine, her brother came through after a sudden accident. She wept, “I should have called him that day.” His energy wrapped around her like a soft blanket as he said, “You couldn’t have known. I did feel your love—it never stopped.”
What Janine needed wasn’t forgiveness from him—it was permission to forgive herself.

Forgiving yourself is critical in being able to move forward with your life. When my son passed away I had tremendous guilt over things I wished I had said or done differently. What I reminded myself of is that in every given moment I was doing the best I could and so was he. I let myself off the hook for things I couldn't change and chose to move forward instead. 

Spirit often reminds us that from their perspective, the “what-ifs” don’t matter. The only thing that endures is the bond of love, and that’s never severed by human mistakes or timing.

If guilt has been a silent companion in your grief, know that your loved one wants you to lay it down. Their peace is already complete—they’re waiting for yours to join them. To receive that reassurance for yourself, you can schedule a reading through aperfectsoul.com.