"I’m Not Worthy of a Message” — Why Guilt Blocks the Connection (And How to Open Again)

 "I'm Not Worthy of a Message"-Why Guild Blocks the Connection (And How to Open Again)

There's a quiet ache I've come to recognize in so many hearts-a hesitation that shows up not as doubt in the afterlife, but doubt in themselves.

"I don't deserve this."

"I wasn't there enough."

"I wasn't a good enough daughter...son...partner...friend."

Those words aren't always said out loud. Sometimes they are in the pause before hitting the "send" to book a reading. Sometimes they show up as a sigh, a tear, or an internal voice that says, "I don't know if I even should be doing this."

Every time I know what's beneath it: love.This guilt isn't about failure-it's about how deeply they cared.

What spirit has repeatedly shown me: Love doesn't keep score. It just doesn't.

When a loved one leaves the physical body into it's new world-it dissolves the weight of human imperfection. The petty arguments, hard feelings, moments of impatience or distance-none of that defines the relationship anymore. What remains is the bond, the history, the love that was always there, even when it was hard to see.

And that love? It's why they come back. To remind you of who you are to them.

A Story of Letting Go of Guilt

I remember one client who came to me months after losing her mother. She had her head down and said, "I don't know if she'd even want to come through. I wasn't a good daughter.

She mentioned that her mom had lived far away, how she'd been busy with work and her own life, putting off visiting her mom "until the next time."  And then, there was no next time.  Her guilt felt heavy.

During her session a warm, familiar presence came through.  Then came the little details that only she would understand.  Then the message: "You were my joy. Not because you did everything right-but because you were mine."

Her mother continued with the message-Tell her to stop waiting for permission. She has everything she needs to start that counseling practice. I've always believed in her-now she must believe in herself.

It's exactly what she needed to hear to move her forward with her idea of going back to school and which she had been putting off.

Guilt can cripple us if we allow it to take root.  Let it go.  Spirit holds no grudges.