You Don’t Have to Be Ready. You Just Have to Be Willing.

People often assume there’s a moment when you’ll feel “ready” to connect with a loved one in spirit.

Ready usually means:
calm enough, healed enough, strong enough, certain enough.

That moment doesn’t always arrive.

Grief doesn’t move in straight lines, and readiness isn’t a finish line you cross. Most of the time, people come to a reading feeling unsure. Tender. A little nervous. Sometimes afraid of being disappointed.

That doesn’t block anything.

Spirit isn’t looking for perfection. They’re not waiting for you to have all the right words or emotions sorted out. They meet you where you are, not where you think you should be.

Willingness is quieter than readiness. It’s simply a small internal yes. A curiosity. A sense that maybe, just maybe, there’s more than absence.

You don’t need to arrive grounded and composed. Tears don’t interfere. Doubt doesn’t interfere. Even fear doesn’t interfere.

What matters is honesty.

I’ve seen the most meaningful connections happen when someone shows up saying, “I don’t know what I feel. I just know I miss them.” That’s enough.

Spirit understands the language of the heart far better than we do. They know grief isn’t tidy. They know courage often shows up disguised as hesitation.

You don’t need to be ready.

You just need to be willing to sit in the space where love still exists, even if you’re not sure what that looks like yet.