I Wasn't Always an Evidential Medium… I Used to Think People Like Me Were WooWoo

Let’s get one thing straight: I didn’t grow up seeing spirits float around my bedroom or hearing ghostly whispers through the walls. Nope. I am a pretty normal human (whatever that means) who once believed that anyone talking to “the other side” was either highly imaginative or in desperate need of sleep.

And yet… here I am.

Becoming a medium wasn’t something I chased. It was more like Spirit slowly turned the volume up over time until I had no choice but to listen. The signs, the synchronicities, the knowing—they kept coming. And one day, I stopped writing them off and started leaning in.

I didn’t lose my mind. I found my soul.

Now, I help others connect with their own souls—and with their loved ones in spirit. And if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re crazy for sensing something bigger… maybe you’re just waking up.

#becoming a medium, #intuitive awakening, #spiritual calling

My Journey Into Mediumship: How Spirit Called Me to Serve

My Journey Into Evidential Mediumship: How Spirit Called Me to Serve

I didn’t grow up knowing I was a medium. I wasn’t the kid seeing ghosts or hearing whispers in the dark. In fact, if you’d told me years ago that one day I’d be passing along messages from people’s loved ones in spirit, I would’ve looked at you like you just suggested I join the circus.

But life has a way of changing you in the most unexpected—and sometimes heartbreaking—ways.

Losing My Son Changed Everything

When my son passed, my world cracked open. The grief was unimaginable. It wasn’t just sadness—it was a soul-deep ache that touched every corner of my being.

But underneath the pain was something else: a fierce, unwavering desire to stay connected to him.

I didn’t know what that would look like—I just knew I couldn’t accept that he was gone. Not in the way people say it. Not in the way that felt final and unreachable.
I needed a way to stay in touch.

That desire—that mother’s love—is what led me to Evidential Mediumship.

I Had No Idea I Could Do This

I started exploring. I found teachers, mentors, and communities who understood the spirit world not as something scary or mysterious, but as something loving, intelligent, and very real.

I had absolutely no idea that I had evidential mediumship abilities. Truly. I didn’t feel “special.” I wasn’t trying to become a professional anything—I just wanted to find my son.

But once I began training, something opened up.
Messages started coming through.
Clear. Specific. Loving.
And not just from my son—but from other people’s loved ones, too.

I’ll never forget the first time I gave a message to someone that brought them to tears—the kind of tears that say “I didn’t even know how much I needed that.”

That’s when I knew. This wasn’t just about my healing anymore. It was about service.

Spirit Called Me to Be a Voice

The rest, as they say, is history.

What started as a mother’s need to connect became a calling to help others do the same.

I’ve since worked with many beautiful souls—both in spirit and in the physical world. I’ve seen what happens when someone hears from a parent, a child, a partner, or a best friend who has passed.
I’ve seen the weight lift. The heart soften. The healing begin.

And every time, I am humbled to be the voice spirit speaks through.

Yes, I Still Laugh About It Sometimes

I’m not going to pretend this is all serious and solemn. Spirit has a sense of humor. Some of the messages I’ve passed along over the years have made me laugh out loud mid-session.

Like the time a grandfather came through and insisted his granddaughter needed to stop dating “that guy with the weird hair.” (She knew exactly who he meant.)

Or the time someone’s mom showed me a pie, then insisted I say “not store-bought” out loud.

This work is sacred—but it’s also human. It’s joyful. It’s real.
And it reminds me, over and over again, that our loved ones don’t stop loving us just because they’ve left their physical body.

This Is What I Was Meant to Do

I never imagined I’d be here. But I’m so grateful I am.

Mediumship found me in the midst of deep grief.
It gave me a way to continue my relationship with my son.
And it gave me a way to help others find that same connection, healing, and hope.

If you’re longing to hear from someone you love, or even just curious about what the spirit world might have to say to you—I’d be honored to hold that space with you.

You can learn more or book a session at www.aperfectsoul.com.
Spirit already knows you're thinking about it. And they’re closer than you think.

Do Spirits Ever Get Stuck? What I’ve Learned About the Afterlife

It’s a question I hear a lot—sometimes whispered, sometimes blurted out in a rush of emotion:

“Do spirits ever get stuck?”
Closely followed by…
“What if my loved one didn’t cross over? What if they’re just… floating around somewhere?”

First, let me gently exhale with you: No, your loved one isn’t wandering around the astral plane lost like someone in a cosmic IKEA, unable to find the exit.

That’s not how the afterlife works. And while pop culture loves a good ghost story, the truth—what I’ve come to know through years of listening to spirit—is far more comforting, far more loving, and honestly… way less dramatic.

Here’s the truth: the soul knows how to get where it’s going.
It doesn’t need a map, GPS, or a flashlight. Crossing over isn’t like catching a connecting flight—you don’t miss your gate if you take too long saying goodbye.

When we leave our physical body, the soul returns to a state it already knows. It’s familiar. It’s safe. It’s guided. No one crosses over alone. Loved ones in spirit, ancestors, guides, and a whole support crew (think soul pit crew, not spooky committee) are there to welcome and walk with them.

It’s usually us—the ones still here—who are unsure, afraid, or stuck in the “what ifs.”

Now, you might be thinking, “But I’ve heard of spirits that hang around… isn’t that being stuck?”

Not quite.

Some spirits choose to stay close for a while—not because they’re trapped, but because they love us, and they know we could use a little help. Some are like,
“She’s crying in the laundry room again, I’m going to flick the lights until she feels me.”

Others just want to make sure their message gets through. Maybe they passed suddenly. Maybe they left things unsaid. Or maybe they’re just stubborn and want one last word (some personalities do not change after crossing, let’s be honest).

But lingering is not the same as being stuck. It’s more like popping back in to check on things. Spirit visits, not spirit captivity.

Let’s put a myth to rest here: the afterlife is not a haunted hallway.
There’s no soul limbo with elevator music and bad lighting. There’s no celestial waiting room where someone forgot to call your number.

The afterlife is love. It’s clarity. It’s peace.
It’s the soul remembering who it truly is—without the weight of fear, pain, or human struggle.

Even people who had hard lives or passed under difficult circumstances are not punished or banished. They are met with grace. With gentleness. With healing.

The spirit world doesn’t cancel people. It wraps them in understanding.

Let’s be real—if they had trouble navigating real-life escalators, sure, they may have taken the scenic route. But when it comes to crossing over? They’re fully supported. No one gets “left behind.” There are no soul stragglers dragging their ghost luggage through a misty fog.

So if you’ve been holding on to the worry that someone you love didn’t make it... please exhale.
They’re okay. Truly.

And chances are, they’ve been trying to tell you that for a while.

Besides popping in to send you feathers, flicker the lights, and somehow make the exact right song come on the radio at the exact right moment? They continue evolving. Learning. Watching over. Loving.

They’re not “gone.” They’ve just changed form.
Think of it like air turning into wind—you can’t see it, but you can feel it. Sometimes deeply.

If your person passed years ago and you’re just now feeling ready to connect, that’s okay. Spirit doesn’t age, forget, or check the calendar.
They don’t hold grudges. And they certainly don’t say,
"Well, it’s been a decade and she never called, so I’ve moved on."

Nope. They’re still there. Still loving you. Still hoping you’ll feel them.

One of the great surprises of mediumship? Spirits are still hilarious. They joke, they tease, they reference inside jokes you thought only you remembered. It’s one of the most healing parts of connecting—the realization that their personality, their essence, is still so alive.

Love doesn’t die.
Connection doesn’t die.
And apparently, sarcasm doesn’t die either.

They may be close.
They may be quiet.
They may be waiting for just the right moment to send a message through.

But they are not stuck.

They are safe. They are free.
And more than anything—they are still with you.

If your heart feels ready, I’d be honored to help you connect.
You can learn more about my mediumship sessions or book one at www.aperfectsoul.com.

When you're ready, they’re ready.

And if they show up cracking jokes and naming your childhood pets? Don’t say I didn’t warn you. 😉

Is It Too Soon (or Too Late) to Connect With a Loved One Who Passed?

When someone we love passes, we often find ourselves asking questions that feel too big, too heavy, or too tender to voice out loud. One of the most common questions I hear as a medium is:

“Is it too soon to connect with them?”

And, just as often:

“Did I wait too long?”

Grief doesn’t follow a schedule. And neither does spirit.

Whether your loss is recent or happened many years ago, the desire to reconnect comes from the same place: love. And the beautiful truth is, that love—the bond between your soul and theirs—doesn’t disappear with time. It transcends it.

In the early days of loss, our hearts are often wrapped in shock, disbelief, and deep pain. We’re still trying to comprehend what’s happened, and the world around us feels different—hollow, even.

Some people feel the urge to connect right away, to know their loved one is okay. Others wonder if they need to “wait” for spirit to settle on the other side.

Here’s what I’ve learned through spirit: they don’t need time—we do.
Spirit is often ready to reach out, eager to let you know they’re near. But if you're still deeply immersed in acute grief, it may be harder for you to feel or recognize their presence. Not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because pain can temporarily cloud awareness.

If you’re unsure, trust your inner knowing. There’s no rush. When you’re ready, spirit will meet you exactly where you are.

Time passes. Life moves on, even when our hearts feel like they’re standing still. And sometimes, people carry guilt or hesitation about reaching out to a loved one in spirit long after their passing.

You might wonder:

• "What if they’ve moved on?"
• "What if they’re no longer available?"
• "What if I missed my chance?"

Let me reassure you: it is never too late.

I’ve facilitated connections with loved ones who crossed decades ago—and their messages are just as clear, just as loving, and often just as healing. Spirit doesn’t forget. They don’t hold time the way we do. What they care about is you—your heart, your healing, your willingness to connect.

Sometimes, waiting even allows for a deeper, more peaceful exchange—because time has softened the pain, and space has opened for reflection and presence.

Whether your loss was recent or long ago, if you feel a pull to connect, know that your loved one is already aware of that desire. In fact, they’ve likely been trying to reach you—through memories, signs, dreams, or moments of sudden warmth or peace.

There’s no perfect timeline. Spirit works in alignment with love, not clocks. And they’re incredibly patient, wise, and gentle in the way they come through.

Every reading is different. Some bring closure. Others bring laughter. Some bring long-awaited answers, while others offer nothing more (and nothing less) than the deep reassurance: “I’m still with you. You are not alone.”

So, is it too soon? Too late?

No, love. It’s never too soon. And it’s never too late.

It’s always just… love. And love doesn’t expire.

If you're feeling called to connect with someone in spirit, I invite you to follow that nudge.

You can learn more about my mediumship services or schedule a session at www.aperfectsoul.com.

When the heart is ready, spirit always responds.

How to Prepare for a Reading With a Medium

Booking a reading with a medium is a deeply personal step. For many, it comes at a time of grief, longing, or a heartfelt desire for connection with someone they’ve lost. Whether this is your first time or you’ve sat with a medium before, it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions—curiosity, nervousness, hope, even doubt.

First, allow me to reassure you: you don’t have to “do” anything special to be worthy of hearing from your loved ones in spirit. They already know you're coming, and they’re often just as eager to connect with you as you are with them.

Still, there are a few gentle ways you can prepare—emotionally and energetically—to help you feel more grounded and open to the experience.

1. Set an Intention, Not an Expectation

Before your reading, take a few quiet moments to reflect. What is your heart longing for? Is there someone specific you hope to hear from? A question you carry in your soul? While setting an intention can help center you, try not to form rigid expectations. Spirit communication is led by love, not control—and the soul who comes forward is often the one you need most, even if it’s not who you expected.

2. Keep an Open Mind and Heart

Mediumship is a conversation between two worlds. It’s often subtle, symbolic, and layered with meaning. Your loved one may come through with memories, names, shared experiences, or personality traits that help you recognize them. Some messages might feel clear, while others might take time to fully understand. The more open you are, the more space there is for the connection to unfold naturally.

3. Know That Spirit Leads the Way

You don’t need to bring photos or personal items (unless it brings you comfort). Mediums connect with the energy of your loved ones, and that energy is always accessible. I never know in advance who will come through—it’s always the soul with the strongest message or the deepest need to make their presence known. And they never come empty-handed.

4. Simple Responses Are Best During the Reading

To keep the connection with spirit strong, you’ll be asked to respond with short answers like yes, no, maybe, or I don’t know. This allows the medium to stay focused and prevents interpretation from getting in the way of the message. There will be time at the end to ask questions or offer feedback, so don’t worry about holding back.

5. Allow the Emotions to Come

It’s completely okay to cry. To laugh. To feel surprised or even overwhelmed. A reading can stir emotions you haven’t touched in a long time—or bring a deep sense of peace you didn’t expect. Whatever comes up, know that it’s part of the healing, part of the love. There is no right or wrong way to feel.

6. After the Reading, Give Yourself Time

Many people say they feel a softness in their heart or a quiet stillness after a session. Others feel energized and light. Take a little time afterward to reflect or rest. Journaling your thoughts and any messages that stood out can be a beautiful way to honor the experience and continue the healing process.

Most of All, Know This:

Your loved ones are not gone. They’ve simply stepped into another form—one that doesn’t require a body, but still holds all the love, wisdom, and connection you shared. A mediumship reading is a sacred opportunity to experience that love again in a new way.

If you're feeling called to connect with a loved one in spirit, I would be honored to walk that path with you.

You can learn more about my process, read client experiences, or book a session at www.aperfectsoul.com.

The soul-to-soul bond you share with your loved one is eternal—and sometimes, the right words from the spirit world can bring the kind of healing that changes everything.

Grief and Spirit: Messages I’ve Received That Changed Everything

 Grief has a way of enveloping us, making the world feel distant and unfamiliar. Yet, within this profound sorrow, there lies a bridge—a connection to the spirit world that offers comfort, healing, and a renewed sense of closeness to those we've lost. Through my journey as an evidential medium, I've witnessed countless moments where messages from the other side have transformed grief into peace. Here are a few stories, shared with permission and anonymized for privacy, that illuminate the profound healing power of spirit communication.

A woman, whom we'll call Mary, came to me, her heart heavy with the loss of her teenage daughter. The pain was palpable, and she yearned for any sign that her daughter was at peace. During our session, her daughter's spirit came through with a vibrant energy, sharing specific details about a cherished family vacation and a secret handshake they shared. These intimate memories, known only to Mary and her daughter, brought tears of both sorrow and joy. The message was clear: love transcends physical boundaries, and their bond remains unbroken.

John had lost his father unexpectedly and struggled with unresolved feelings and unanswered questions. In our reading, his father's spirit communicated a heartfelt apology for past misunderstandings and expressed immense pride in John's recent accomplishments. The spirit also mentioned a unique family heirloom—a pocket watch—that John had recently found but knew little about. This acknowledgment provided John with the closure he desperately sought, mending the emotional rift and reaffirming his father's enduring guidance.

Lisa was grappling with the sudden passing of her younger brother. She felt an overwhelming sense of guilt, believing she could have done more to prevent his death. During our connection, her brother's spirit conveyed a playful energy, reminding Lisa of their childhood pranks and shared laughter. He emphasized that his passing was not her fault and urged her to release the burden of guilt. This message allowed Lisa to begin her healing journey, embracing the joyful memories they created together.

These stories are testaments to the profound healing that can occur when we open ourselves to messages from the spirit world. Each connection serves as a reminder that our loved ones continue to watch over us, offering guidance, love, and reassurance from beyond. While grief may never fully dissipate, these spiritual communications can transform our pain, providing solace and a renewed sense of connection.

If you're navigating the troubled waters of loss, do know that you're not alone. The spirit world holds messages of hope and healing, waiting to be received when you're ready.

Note: The experiences shared above are based on actual readings and testimonials from clients of A Perfect Soul. Names and specific details have been changed to respect privacy.

If you feel drawn to explore a connection with a loved one who has passed, or you're seeking comfort and clarity as you navigate your grief, I invite you to take the next step.

You don’t have to walk this path alone.

Spirit has messages for you—messages of love, reassurance, and healing—and I would be honored to help you receive them.

Visit www.aperfectsoul.com to learn more about my mediumship services, read client stories, or book a session.

Let’s open the door to a deeper connection—one that reminds you that love never dies.

#grief and spirt, #messages from beyond

What to Expect During an Evidential Mediumship Reading

Whether your reading takes place in person or online, the connection to the spirit world is just as strong. Spirit doesn’t depend on physical location—energy is energy, and it reaches us wherever we are.

Before your reading begins, your medium will take a moment to explain the process so you feel comfortable and at ease. They will let you know that they’ll be asking for and receiving information—what we call evidence—from one of your loved ones in spirit. This evidence often includes specific details such as names, memories, personality traits, or shared experiences. The medium will relay this information exactly as it is received, without altering or interpreting it, so you can recognize and connect with it yourself.

You’ll be encouraged to answer simply with yes, no, maybe, or I don’t know as the information is shared. This keeps the flow of the reading clear and allows spirit to lead. If you have any questions before the connection begins, you’ll have a moment to ask them. Otherwise, the medium will take a brief pause to center themselves and open up to your loved one’s energy.

It’s important to know that you don’t need to do anything special to prepare—your loved ones already know you’re coming, and they’re often just as eager to connect as you are.

In my own experience as an evidential medium, I never know in advance which spirit will come forward. It’s always the one with the strongest message—the one who most wants to be heard and felt by you in that moment. And they never come empty-handed.

At the end of every reading, I always ask the spirit if there’s a personal message they want to share with you—and without fail, there always is. These messages often bring warmth, comfort, and a deep sense of love that transcends the physical world.

It is truly a sacred experience—one that honors both your grief and your ongoing connection to those you love.

Learn more at aperfectsoul

#medium reading expectations, #what happens in a mediumship session

Can Mediumship Help With Grief? What Spirit Has Taught Me About Healing

Grief has a way of knocking the breath out of us. It’s a deeply personal, often isolating experience—and when we lose someone we love, especially unexpectedly, the world can suddenly feel unfamiliar, hollow, and painful.

After the passing of my son, I was thrown into that space. A space where everything felt surreal, and nothing made sense. The ache was constant, and the longing to feel him again—to know he was okay, to believe he was still with me—was overwhelming.

It was in those quiet, heart-wrenching moments that mediumship began to reveal itself not just as a gift, but as a lifeline.

In the early days after a loss, we’re often swimming in a sea of emotions—shock, sadness, disbelief, sometimes even guilt or anger. It’s not uncommon for people to say, “I wish I could feel them near me, but I can’t.” And I always tell them: That’s okay. Grief can cloud our ability to sense the presence of spirit. But that doesn’t mean our loved ones aren’t trying to reach us.

As time passes, something shifts. The fog begins to lift—sometimes just a little—and we may start noticing things. Flickering lights. Feathers in unexpected places. Pennies on the ground. A certain song playing at just the right moment. A bird that always seems to be nearby. Their name popping up in ways that feel too specific to be random.

These are not coincidences. They’re subtle signs from spirit—a quiet but powerful reminder that our loved ones are not gone. They’re simply transformed. Still present, just in a different way.

My own journey with spirit became deeply personal after my son passed. One of the first things he did was play with the lights in our house. I would turn them off, certain of it—and find them on again. At first, I questioned myself. But soon, it became clear: he was showing me he was still with me.

Then came the semi-trucks. Twice, I saw trucks driving by with only his first name on them—nothing else. His name is unusual, so this felt like a direct message. A spiritual wink. And then there were the cats. He blended with them in such a beautiful way. One of my most aching wishes had been to hug him one last time—and every night, one of our cats would curl up beside me, place her cheek against mine, and wrap her paws gently around my neck. It felt like a soul-level embrace.

These moments weren’t just comforting—they were transformative. They helped me shift from unbearable sorrow to a space of connection, hope, and eventually, peace.

Spirit has taught me that healing isn’t about forgetting or moving on—it’s about transforming the relationship. It’s about recognizing that while the physical presence is gone, the soul connection lives on.

Mediumship offers more than communication—it offers validation. It reminds us that love doesn’t end with death. That our bonds are eternal. That we are still seen, still loved, still supported by those in the spirit world.

In my work as a medium, I’ve witnessed countless moments where a message, a sign, or a shared memory brings tears, laughter, and the kind of deep, heart-level healing that words alone could never provide.

You are not alone.

Your grief is valid, your love is eternal, and your loved one is still near. Whether you sense them or not, they are finding ways to reach you. And when you’re ready—when the noise of sorrow quiets just a bit—you might feel that subtle touch on your cheek, hear their laugh in your heart, or see their name just when you need it most.

Mediumship doesn’t take the grief away—but it can offer light in the darkness. It can be the bridge between pain and peace, between “goodbye” and “I’m still here.”

And that, I believe, is one of the greatest gifts Spirit has to offer.

If you’d like to explore what a connection with your loved one might feel like, or learn more about evidential mediumship, you can visit www.aperfectsoul.com. I’d be honored to walk that path with you.

#medimship for grief, #healing after loss

7 Signs Your Loved One in Spirit Is Trying to Reach You

When someone we deeply love crosses over into the spirit world, those of us left behind are often overwhelmed by a storm of emotions. Grief has a way of wrapping itself around us, and in those early days, it can be hard to sense anything beyond the ache in our hearts. That's completely natural. Our awareness of signs from the spirit world isn't yet sharpened - it takes time, and that's okay.

But as the days pass and we find a little more space to breathe, we might start to notice things. Lights flickering or turning on and off without explanation.  Feathers appearing in unexpected places. A bird that seems to show up again and again, almost like it's watching over you. You might hear a song that holds deep meaning - like a whisper from above.  Or suddenly, you keep seeing their name in the most random places.  A penny on the ground.  A soft breeze at just the right moment.  These aren't coincidences.  

These are gentle, loving signs from your loved one. It's their way of saying, "I’m still here. I haven’t left you."

After my son passed, he let me know he is still around in the most beautiful ways. The lights in our home became his playground—I’d be sure I’d turned them off, only to find them glowing again. His name, which is quite unique, began appearing on semi-trucks—nothing else on them, just his name, as if the universe was making sure I wouldn’t miss it. He even came through our cats, blending his energy with theirs. One of my deepest wishes was to hug him one more time—and every night, one of our cats would curl up beside me, place her cheek against mine, and wrap her paws around my neck, as if to say, "Here I am, Mom. I'm still loving you."

These moments—so tender and extraordinary—remind us that love never dies. Our connection with those we’ve lost is not broken; it’s simply changed. And if we stay open, even in our sorrow, we begin to feel them, see them, and know they are still with us.

If you'd like to hear from your loved ones visit aperfectsoul.com

#signs from loved ones, #spirit communication

What is Evidential Mediumship? A Clear and Comforting Guide

 If you're considering having a mediumship reading it's important for you to know ahead of time exactly what kind of reading you can expect from the medium you've chosen to give the reading and what the difference is between an evidential medium and a psychic medium.

An evidential medium makes a connection with one of your loved ones in spirit and brings forth enough specific information about that person so that you can easily identify who the spirit is.  This information generally will talk about the personality of the person, things they liked to do, any hobbies they might have had, kind of work they did, what their home looked like, meaningful dates/months, things they might have seen you doing recently and any other information the spirit wants to share with the "sitter" (the person receiving the reading).  Often times the reading will end with a message from the spirit meant specifically for the sitter.

A psychic is generally tapping into your energy and bringing to light information about your past, present or future.  They may offer guidance or insights on career choices, relationships, areas of personal growth.  In essence they have heightened perceptual abilities.

To learn more visit the FAQ section on aperfectsoul.com

#evidential medium #mediumship explained