When Loved Ones Help Us Find Purpose After Loss

When Loved Ones Help Us Find Purpose After Loss

Grief has a way of hollowing us out, leaving us wondering who we are without the one we lost. But over time, Spirit often helps us refill that space with meaning. They gently guide us toward purpose—not to replace them, but to expand through them.

Clarissa came to me after her sister’s sudden passing. “I can’t move on,” she said. “Nothing feels important anymore.” As her sister’s energy came through, she showed me an image of hands comforting others. “She’s meant to help people heal,” the sister said. Clarissa gasped—she had just started volunteering at a trauma support center. “That’s me,” she whispered. “I thought it was coincidence.”

Spirit confirmed what her soul already knew — she was turning her pain into light. Her sister added, “That’s how we stay connected. Every time you help someone, I’m there.”

I’ve witnessed this so many times: parents who start foundations, spouses who write books, friends who dedicate their lives to kindness — all inspired by messages from Spirit. Loss cracks us open, but through those cracks, light gets in.

My son's passing is what led me into mediumship. I know the feeling and healing that comes from having a reading. I want to continue sharing that with others in need.

Our loved ones don’t want our lives to stop when theirs change form. They want us to grow in ways that honor them. They remind us that death ends a life, not a relationship. The relationship simply evolves into one of guidance, inspiration, and love that works behind the scenes.

What if the roles were reversed? What if it was you who passed first-would you want those in the flesh to stop living their lives? To stop having fun and laughter? No. You'd want them to continue living life to the fullest. Finishing the lessons they came here to learn. 

So if you’ve ever felt nudged toward something meaningful since your loss — a new passion, a cause, a project — consider that it may not be random. It may be Spirit gently steering you toward your next chapter.

If you’d like to hear what your loved one sees for you now — how they’re helping you move forward with purpose — I’d be honored to share that conversation with you. Schedule your session at aperfectsoul.com.