Spirits Who Come Through When We Don’t Remember Them Clearly—And Why They’re Here

Spirits Who Come Through When We Don’t Remember Them Clearly—And Why They’re Here

Sometimes, during a reading, a spirit will come forward who leaves the sitter puzzled. “I don’t know anyone by that name,” they’ll say, or “That doesn’t sound familiar.” But Spirit always has a reason for showing up—even if it’s not immediately clear.

I remember a reading with a woman named Denise. The first energy to appear was a man in a military uniform. She shook her head, “No one in my family served.” Yet he was persistent, showing me medals and a distinct name tag. As the reading went on, she suddenly gasped, “Oh my goodness—that’s my grandfather’s brother. I never met him, but my mom used to talk about him.” He had come through to acknowledge Ellen’s son, who was considering enlisting in the military. “Tell him he’s watched over,” the spirit said.

What began as confusion turned into a moment of profound reassurance.

Sometimes distant relatives, childhood friends, or even family members we never met in life will step forward because they are part of our soul’s greater network. They remind us that we are deeply connected beyond memory and bloodline. They may come to deliver protection, encouragement, or simply to say, “You’re not alone.”

There are also times when the spirit of a loved one whom someone you're close to in life comes through. Generally you are the only way they can get a message to their loved one through the reading you're having. While it might feel dissappointing to you, the message might make a profound difference to the person it's intended for.  Stay open is all they ask.

Spirit’s messages always carry purpose, even when the messenger isn’t who we expected. Often, their presence connects a healing thread through generations—bridging the living and the departed in one continuous circle of love.

If you’ve ever wondered why an unfamiliar spirit might come through for you, I’d be honored to help you uncover their reason for reaching out. You can schedule a session through aperfectsoul.com.

You’re Not “Crazy”—You’re Connected: When Spirit Is Trying to Reach You

You’re Not “Crazy”—You’re Connected: When Spirit Is Trying to Reach You

Many people have said to me, “I think I’m going crazy.” They hear their name whispered in the night, smell a familiar perfume when no one’s around, or feel a sudden warmth wash over them for no reason. My first response is always the same: You’re not crazy—you’re connected.

My own son awakened me one night calling my name, Sharon, quite loudly.  I've also felt his presence on my bed next to me.

Spirit often uses subtle signs to get our attention. They communicate through sensations, emotions, lights flickering, songs playing at just the right moment. The trouble is, our logical mind is quick to dismiss these experiences. But our soul knows.

A young woman named Brianna once came to me terrified that she was “losing it.” She kept feeling her late mother’s presence—smelling her favorite roses and finding pennies everywhere. She said, “I tell myself it’s coincidence, but deep down it feels different.” During her reading, her mother came through clearly and said, “Tell her I am the one with the roses.” The room filled with peace. Brianna cried with relief. She said, “So I’m not imagining it?” And I smiled, “No, you’re awakening to it.”

When Spirit reaches out, it’s not to scare you. It’s to comfort, to reassure, to let you know life continues. Once you learn to trust your intuition instead of second-guessing it, you start to see that Spirit’s language is all around you.

You don’t need to be a medium to receive signs. You just need to stay open, grounded, and willing to believe that love finds a way to speak. The more you acknowledge those gentle nudges, the stronger the connection becomes. This is so true.

If you’ve been having experiences that you can’t explain and wonder if Spirit might be trying to reach you, I’d love to help you explore it in a session. You can schedule a reading through aperfectsoul.com.

Dreams of the Departed: When Your Loved Ones Visit at Night

Dreams of the Departed: When Your Loved Ones Visit at Night

Dreams are one of Spirit’s favorite doorways. When we sleep, our analytical mind relaxes. Our defenses are down, our hearts open—and Spirit can step closer. These dreams feel different. They’re vivid, peaceful, and often filled with unmistakable love.

Not all dreams are visitations, but when they are, you’ll know. You wake up feeling comforted, even healed. The dream lingers in your memory for years because it felt real.

(I highly recommend writing down those dreams as they come to you. You might not be able to fully interpret them in the moment and find that when you look back on what you wrote at a later date they make perfect sense then.)

One man, Daniel, shared a dream he had of his late wife, Maria. “She looked so alive,” he said, “and she told me, ‘I’m not gone—I’m just living where the light is different.’” He said he could still feel the warmth of her hug when he woke up. During his reading, Maria validated that she had been visiting him in dreams, using that same phrase again: “where the light is different.” He broke down, saying, “I thought it was just my subconscious missing her.”
It wasn’t. It was love reaching across dimensions.

Spirit dreams don’t come on demand. They come when your heart is ready to receive. Sometimes it’s right after a passing, other times it’s years later. What matters is the message: I’m alive, I’m with you, and I love you.

If you’ve had dreams that felt more like visits, hold them close. They’re sacred gifts. And if you’d like to understand their meaning more deeply, I’d be honored to help you connect with your loved one in Spirit at aperfectsoul.com.

They Never Said “I Love You” in Life—But Spirit Made Up for It

They Never Said “I Love You” in Life—But Spirit Made Up for It

Some of the most powerful readings I’ve ever had were with spirits who couldn’t say “I love you” when they were alive. Whether it was due to pride, fear, or simply not knowing how, those unsaid words often linger in the hearts of those left behind. But Spirit has a beautiful way of mending what was left undone.

When people cross over, they gain tremendous clarity—no more ego, defensiveness, and human confusion. From that higher perspective, they finally see the impact of their words and actions. And in that realization, they often rush forward to make things right. The invitation is for you to be open to hearing from them and accept any apologies that they may make to you so healing can continue.

One man’s father came through during a session recently—a stoic, hard-working type who “wasn’t one for emotions.” His daughter, Lucy, had grown up feeling invisible. When his presence appeared, I was flooded with sensations of deep regret and love trying to pour through all at once. I said to her, “He’s placing his hand over his heart and saying, ‘If I could live it again, I’d say it every day.’” She broke down sobbing. “He never told me he loved me. Not once.”

In that moment, his soul’s message carried what his human words never could. She said afterward, “For the first time, I felt him as my dad—not just the man who raised me.”

Spirit doesn’t come back to rehash the pain—they come back to heal it. When they acknowledge their mistakes, express love, or apologize, they’re not just doing it for themselves. They’re helping you release the burden of wondering why you weren’t enough.

My mother and myself did not have a good relationship while she was in physical form. She has come through in readings over the years. At first I wasn't open to hearing from her and shut down inside. Years later I became curious about what she had to say to me. That's when the realing healing and forgiveness began. I realize now it could have started much sooner had I have been open to what she had to say.  It's never too late though.

The language of the afterlife is love, plain and simple. It transcends the years of silence, the misunderstandings, and the unspoken goodbyes. It shows that love is eternal—and it’s never too late to say what needed to be said.

If you’re carrying a wound from something left unspoken, I invite you to experience what healing messages from Spirit can bring. You can schedule a session at aperfectsoul.com

The Myth of "Moving On"-Why Your Loved One Can Be With You Forever

The Myth of "Moving On"-Why Your Loved One Can Be With You Forever

Many times I speak with people who believe that after the passing of their loved one that the loved one has moved on.

It's my experience that this simply isn't true. After years of sitting with spirit, receiving messages of love, guidance, and recognition, I've come to understand something profound:

They don't "move on" from us.

They evolve.

They adapt.

They continue.

The idea that our loved ones must "move on" to some distant realm, unreachable and uninvolved, is more a comfort to the living that a truth of the afterlife. It helps us cope. It gives us permission to keep living.

Spirit tells a different story. 

A Message That Changed Everything

I remember a session with Stephanie, who had lost her daughter years earlier. 

"I've been told she's moved on," she said. "That she's in a better place and doesn't look back. But I miss her every day. And I wonder...does she ever think of me?"

During her reading, a presence came through-joyful, youthful, full of energy. I described a sensation of someone twirling in a favorite dress, and a flash of purpose-a color I kept seeing.

Stephanie teared up. "That was her prom dress and it was purple. She loved that dress."

Then her daughter said: "I'm not gone, Mom. I'm just not in your world. I'm still your daughter. You're still and always will be, my mom.

Stephanie was astonished. "I thought she was too far away to care."

Her daughter's message wasn't about distance.  It was about continuity.

In that moment Stephanie felt connection.

And that changed everything!


The Idea of Moving On is a Human Idea-Not a Spiritual One

The veil doesn't sever bonds-it transforms them.

Your loved one isn't forgetting you.

They aren't too "advanced" to notice your pain.

They aren't busy with some higher mission that erases their human ties.

They are still them!

If they loved you here, they love you there-more clearly, more fully and without the limitations of the physical world.

They find ways to reach you-in dreams, in signs, in the sudden warmth of a memory.

Spirit doesn't want you to forget them.

They want you to remember them-in your thoughts and your quiet moments.   They want you to know they're always with you.

If you've been told to "move on," or if you've felt guilty for still aching years later, I want to know this:

Your love is not a burden.

Your longing is not a weakness.

Your connection is not imagination.

It's real.

And it's honored on the other side.

They've moved closer-to a pleace where they can love you without limits.

If you've been wondering if they still know you, still care, still watch over you - I would be honored to help you hear their answer.

I Was Angry at Them When They Died-Making Peace When the Last Words Weren't Goodbye

I Was Angry at Them When They Died-Making Peace When the Last Words Weren't Goodbye

There's a particular kind of grief that doesn't always show up in tears.

It shows up in silence.

In unfinished conversations.

In the weight of words never said-or worse, words that were said, in anger, in frustration, in pain.

So many people carry this:

"We hadn't spoken in years."

"The last thing I said to them was cruel."

"I was still so angry-and now I can't make it right."

That ache-the longing to apologize and feel forgiven, or simply talk one more time-is one of the most human things I witness.

Over and over, spirit meets it with one divine response:

"You don't have to make it right. Just let me love you."

A Message that Healed Years of Resentment

I remember a session with a man named Marcus. His older brother passed away two years earlier. They had been estranged for a long time. They'd argued over family, money, and old would that never healed. The last time they spoke, Marcus had hung up the phone in anger and never called back.

With is brother's sudden passing, the guilt was crushing.

"I don't even know if I should be doing this," he said at the start of our session. "We weren't close. I wasn't a good brother."

Right after he said that a presence came through with a sense of humor that cut through the tension. I described a feeling of someone ruffling his hair-something his brother used to do when they were kids, to annoy him!

Marcus smiled and looked down. "He always did that."

The next reference was of a baseball glove, left behind at a summer cabin. I mentioned the smell of pine and leather, and Marcus caught his breath.

"That was our place," he said. "We used to go there every summer.  He taught me how to catch with that glove."

And then the message: 

"You were never behind. We were just on different steps. I never stopped loving you."

Marcus wept. "I spent years thinking he resented me," he said. "I thought he saw me as the little brother who never measured up."

One of the most beautiful truths I've learned is this: when a soul crosses over, the veil doesn't just separate worlds-it softens the hearts.

The grudges, pride, stubborness that held us back in life? Spirit sees them for what they were: human struggles, born of pain, fear, or misunderstanding.

And from the other side, they no longer matter.

You just have to be open to the possibility that love didn't end-it found a new way.

If you've been longing for that second conversation-for a chance to finally exhale-I would be honored to help you receive it.

Whenever you're ready, I'm here.

You can reach me at www.aperfectsoul.com

The First Sign That Changed Everything: Real Stories of Spirit Breaking Through

The First Sign That Changed Everything: Real Stories of Spirit Breaking Through

There's a sacred. moment I've witnessed countless times.  It happens when a client hears something they know no one else could have known.

A nickname.

A private joke.

A memory buried so deep, they forgot it existed.

In that moment their eyes widen, their breath catches, and everything shifts.

Now they know for sure that spirit lives on.

When the Unseen Becomes Undeniable

I once worked with a man named James who came to a reading out of curiosity. He'd lost his older brother years earlier in a sudden accident and had never explored mediumship. "I'm not saying I don't believe," he told me, "but I've never felt anything."

During our session, a presence with a playful energy-competitive, teasing, with a love of sports. I mentioned a visual of two boys climbing a tree behind a blue house.

James went still.

"That was us," he said. "No one else knows that. We used to climb that tree in the backyard, trying to see who could go higher. We called it 'the eagles nest.'

Then came a phrase: "You still owe me fifty cents."

James laughed-a deep, surprised sound-then tears filled his eyes.

"When we were kids, I borrowed a coin from him and never paid him back. One day, he jokingly held up a sign that said 'IOU 50 cents' and taped it to my shirt at dinner. I hadn't thought about that in thirty years.

James said later, "I didn't just feel him. I knew him. And for the first time since he died, I didn't feel alone."

The First Sign is Often the Most Powerful

For many the first undeniable sign is the turning point.

Before: "I hope they're okay."

After: "I know they're okay."

Before: "I'm not sure I believe."

After: "I can't deny this."

That first moment-whether it happens in a reading, a dream, or a sudden memory-opens the door to a new kind of relationship. One that isn't bound by time, distance, or even death.

Once that door opens, the signs often begin to multiply.

If you've been longing for a confirmation-or if you've already felt something but aren't sure what it means-I would be honored to help you receive it.

Whenever you're ready, I'm here.

You can reach me at www.aperfectsoul.com

"I’m Not Worthy of a Message” — Why Guilt Blocks the Connection (And How to Open Again)

 "I'm Not Worthy of a Message"-Why Guild Blocks the Connection (And How to Open Again)

There's a quiet ache I've come to recognize in so many hearts-a hesitation that shows up not as doubt in the afterlife, but doubt in themselves.

"I don't deserve this."

"I wasn't there enough."

"I wasn't a good enough daughter...son...partner...friend."

Those words aren't always said out loud. Sometimes they are in the pause before hitting the "send" to book a reading. Sometimes they show up as a sigh, a tear, or an internal voice that says, "I don't know if I even should be doing this."

Every time I know what's beneath it: love.This guilt isn't about failure-it's about how deeply they cared.

What spirit has repeatedly shown me: Love doesn't keep score. It just doesn't.

When a loved one leaves the physical body into it's new world-it dissolves the weight of human imperfection. The petty arguments, hard feelings, moments of impatience or distance-none of that defines the relationship anymore. What remains is the bond, the history, the love that was always there, even when it was hard to see.

And that love? It's why they come back. To remind you of who you are to them.

A Story of Letting Go of Guilt

I remember one client who came to me months after losing her mother. She had her head down and said, "I don't know if she'd even want to come through. I wasn't a good daughter.

She mentioned that her mom had lived far away, how she'd been busy with work and her own life, putting off visiting her mom "until the next time."  And then, there was no next time.  Her guilt felt heavy.

During her session a warm, familiar presence came through.  Then came the little details that only she would understand.  Then the message: "You were my joy. Not because you did everything right-but because you were mine."

Her mother continued with the message-Tell her to stop waiting for permission. She has everything she needs to start that counseling practice. I've always believed in her-now she must believe in herself.

It's exactly what she needed to hear to move her forward with her idea of going back to school and which she had been putting off.

Guilt can cripple us if we allow it to take root.  Let it go.  Spirit holds no grudges.

They’re Still Parenting Me: When Spirit Shows Up to Guide, Not Just Grieve

They're Still Parenting Me: When Spirit Shows Up to Guide, Not Just Grieve

When we lost someone who played a nurturing role in our lives, we often presume their guidance has ended.

We think:

"I wish I could ask her what to do."

"He would've known how to handle this."

"I'm on my own now."

One of the most beautiful, life-affirming truths I've witnessed through my work is this: love doesn't retire when someone passes.

And for those who parented us-whether by blood, bond, or heart-their role doesn't end at death. It evolves.

They're not gone.

They're not silent.

They are still looking out for us.

A Message that Changed Everything

I remember a session with a woman named Elena, who had lost her father two years earlier.  She came to me hoping for closure-a chance to say goodbye.

What came through wasn't a farewell. It was direction.

As I was blending my energy I began to feel a strong, steady presence of a no-nonsense individual with a deep feeling of caring. There was a sensation of his hands adjusting her shoulders making sure she stood tall.

Then came a phrase: "Check the numbers."

Elena's eyes widened as she recalled that's what he used to say whenever I was making a big decision about money.   He'd say, 'Don't go by feelings alone. Check the numbers.'  I hadn't thought about that in years!!

He went on to offer her advice about a career decision she was contemplating.  In that moment, it wasn't just comfort she received.  It was a push.  A father, from the other side, still doing what he always did: believing in her before she believed in herself.

She took the job a week later!

Often, the advice isn't what we want to hear-it's what we need to hear.

Because spirit sees the bigger picture.

They see your potential.

They see your path.

If you've been thinking, "I wish I could ask them what to do," I want to gently offer this: You can.

Try this:

Set an intention before you sleep:

"Loved one (name)-if you're near please send me a sign, a dream, or a feeling about this decision."

Pay attention to your body.

When you think of a choice, do you feel tightness-or a sense of ease? Spirit often communicates through your gut, your heart, your breath.

What keeps showing up? What memory surfaces? What phrase echoes in your mind? These aren't accidents-they're messages.

Trust the nudge.

That sudden urge to call someone, change a plan, or take a risk? It might be your loved one still parenting you-not with rules, but with love.

If you've been feeling lost, unsure, or like you've lost your compass-I would be honored to help you reconnect with the voice that still knows your name.

Whenever you're ready, I'm here.

You can reach me at www.aperfectsoul.com

What If It's Just My Imagination?-Validating Your Experience Without Doubt

 What If It's Just My Imagination?-Validating Your Experience Without Doubt

One of the most common, and most human, questions I hear is this:

"What if it's just my imagination?"

Here's what important to know: Imagination is not the opposite of truth-it's often the doorway to it.

When a loved one reaches across from the other side, they don't come with a spotlight or a loudspeaker. They arrive gently. Through the very channels your mind and heart already use to process love, memory, and meaning. That includes your imagination.

So is it "just" your imagination?

Maybe.  Perhaps your imagination is how they're reaching you.


A Story of Doubt That Turned Into Certainty

I once worked with a client named Daniel who came to a session feeling deeply skeptical-not of me, but of himself.

"I keep dreaming about my dad," he said.  "He's always fixing something-a car, the porch step.  He was like that in life-always tinkering.  I tell myself it's just my brain holding on.

During our session, a strong presence came through-practical, no-nonsense individual. I described a sensation of grease on the hands, and a phrase that kept repeating: "It's got good bones."

Daniel froze.

"That's what he used to say about every project.  Even when things were broken, he'd say, 'It's got good bones."  I haven't remembered that for years!

There were other things that came through that Daniel clearly understood were from his dad.  In that moment, something shifted.  It wasn't "was it just my imagination?" anymore.  It became "What if my imagination is how he's still teaching me?"

And because of that, spirit often comes through in ways that feel familiar to you.  Like a thought, a dream, a sudden knowing.  They are using the language of your relationship: a song, repeated numbers, a smell or a symbol that only you would understand.

I'll say it again: Your imagination may very well be one of your greatest spiritual tools!

 

Why You Don’t Need to Believe in Mediumship for It to Work

Many clients come to me saying, “I’m not sure I believe in this, but I need to know.” The truth? Belief is not a prerequisite for connection. Spirit doesn’t require your certainty—just your openness. And often, the most powerful sessions happen when someone arrives cautiously, only to leave completely changed.

Mediumship isn’t about convincing. It’s about revealing what is already present: love, energy, connection, memory. If spirit has a message for you, they will find a way to bring it through—whether you’re skeptical, grieving, or completely unsure of what to expect. Your doubt doesn’t block spirit; it often makes the session even more meaningful.

Some of my most profound sessions have been with people who were hesitant or even resistant. When a spirit comes through with a name, a memory, or a piece of guidance that only the client could verify, something shifts. Skepticism melts into curiosity. Curiosity melts into awe.

Belief may follow, but even if it doesn't, the healing still happens. The love still comes through. Spirit meets you where you are—no dogma required. Just an open heart and a willingness to be surprised.

So if you’ve been unsure whether a session is “for you,” know this: it is. You don’t have to believe in mediumship to benefit from it. All you need is a little courage. Visit www.aperfectsoul.com when you’re ready.